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Day 97: Parenthood

Before I became a Mom I used to work somewhere between 60 – 100 hours a week on my event production business. There were times I thought I had the hardest job in the world. Managing my own small business always included long gruelling hours, challenging clients, knowing how to do everything including accounting to being a creative artist, marketing specialist and a business guru.

Then I became a Mom. Just in case you haven’t experienced this, being a full time Mom is one of the toughest job you can ever have. 100 hours a week is nothing when you compare it to 24 hours a day every day, ( and on call at night!)

You are a teacher, pediatric nurse & doctor, psychotherapist, party planner, chauffeur, tutor, gourmet chef, hairdresser and negotiator. This list  can go on and on. It’s the role of a life time that, no matter what your friends and family say to you before you become a parent,  you can never be prepared enough.  There is no book or manual that truly helps you understand the minute by minute nuances of your own child. Each child is unique and different from any other and just when you think you have it all down to a science, your child changes all the rules and it’s different all over again.

Now I am blessed, I have  a very supportive husband and he is happy to parent with me when he is not working a 60 hour work week. I often think of Mothers that have to parent on their own and how hard it must be to get through the days without feeling like they are going to snap at times.

Today’s GIVE was inspired by a single Mom that needs a little help right now. I may not be able to give her an extra set of hands every day but I can do something, anything to help.

Day 97: GIVE 97

I am fast approaching 100 days of giving and realize I am attracted to certain types of GIVES. Helping the environment, supporting children in countries with extreme poverty and giving to single Mom’s  here in Vancouver. There isn’t a large city in the world without single mothers who are in need of help. If you don’t have a job with benefits when your child is born ( I didn’t) who is going to pay for you to stay home to take care of your baby? How do you get by on unemployment insurance from the government when you have to pay big city rent prices, food, diapers, clothing ? There is no possibility even of hiring a babysitter for a little time to yourself.

This is where an organizations like Spectrum comes in. Spectrum helps single mom’s that need a little extra help in all aspects of parenting. Many of things we all take for granted.

Respite
Caregiving
Mentoring
Pre and post partum doula
Phone support
Driving

The founder of this organization Sally Livingstone is one of the most remarkable women I have ever met. She is a foster mom of special needs babies, adoptive mother, she teaches part time at the local University and now she runs a not for profit organization.  I may have committed to 365give every day but Sally gives and gives and gives nonstop, 24 hours a day every day of every year ! As my Mother put it today – some people are just angels on earth. Sally would be one of those angels.

I do my best to help Sally in any way I can. She knows that all she has to do is email me with a list of needs for a Mom in her care and I will “call in the troops” as I like to call it, and email the request goes out to my ‘mom’ friends. Someone always has clothes, toys and other baby gear they are happy to pass on to someone who really needs it rather than having yet another garage sale.

So today I dropped by Sally’s house with a few bags of infant clothing (passed on by one of my dear friends) along with a pack of diapers, so she can pass them onto the Mom that needs a little help. It’s not going to change or fix this Mom’s problems, but I hope she knows that someone cares and is willing to do what they can to help.

Do you have any extra clothing or a little time to help other mothers in need?

Time Commitment: 20 minutes:

Cost: $15.00

What people are saying about 365give

“I wanted to express my gratitude for the teaching you provided today. Your message was delivered eloquently, compassionately, and without judgment. The kids were engaged, and now have knowledge with which they can change the world. We all appreciated how you took the time to help us learn to build positive mindsets and practice happiness.”
Shelley Gardner, Grade 6 Ridgeview Elementary (West Vancouver)
“Actions really do speak louder than words, which is why I believe the 365give Challenge has resonated throughout my community. Every give we do is so important to us and leaves us happier and appreciating our lives a little bit more than before.”
Mahina Niyozova (Tajikistan)
“After watching the 365give TEDx Talk, I was inspired to join and begin a daily giving program in India. Today, along with 12 other volunteer women, we provide 100 meals to local underprivileged children in Bangalore for school every day.”
Deepika Ahuja, Mom (Bangalore, India)
“My life has greater meaning now.”
Renate Jorge, @BeKindBrazil and 365give Member, Family Program (Brazil)
“I just wanted to share that 365give really helped me. I am a better person now, thank you.”
MayLee, 365give Member, Individual Program
“This 365give Challenge has really injected excitement and extra enthusiasm in each work day as I think about what we can do. It has motivated me and the students.”
Cristina Peters, School Counselor (New York City, USA)
“I have seen a huge shift in energy throughout my classroom since doing the 365give Challenge. The Challenge has empowered my students to make a positive difference in the school’s community and beyond.”
Cella Adriana, Special Needs Educator /The Holliswood School (New York City, USA)
“The 365give Challenge helps students understand their impact on others. It opens avenues for introducing and discussing global and local issues in classrooms. It is powerful to watch students of all ages think about how they can make a change in another person’s life with one small act.”
Jessica Hall, Primary Teacher, French Immersion at École Pauline Johnson (West Vancouver, Canada)