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I am a new Mom for the second time exactly one week ago today (Day 353). I also have my own business part time and I blog every day. I am struggling right now with what I am not getting done. Today I decided to make my daily give to myself. I am giving myself a break.
Day 358: Give 358
This crazy thing I call my life.
The Adoption: Journey 1
My adoption journey started 8 years ago with an abandon dog named Brooklyn. Brooklyn was a year old and won our hearts over instantly. Without knowing it we adopted the “problem child.” At the 6 month mark I had a break down as I was reasonable for the training, walking, feeding and scheduling of this dog. I was shocked at the amount of work it took and how much time out of my busy day. After 1.5 of training and the dog and myself, I was ready to take on adoption #2.
A second dog, this time a rescue puppy. Mackenzie was so cute but once again SO MUCH WORK!. This time after just 6 weeks I had yet another breakdown as my life changed again to accommodate our newest family member. Once again I got trained as well as our second dog Mackenzie.
The Adoption: Journey 3
Then the day came we wanted a child. My husband and I were not able to have children via the natural birth process and adoption was the route we wanted to take. We strongly believe that there are children right here in Canada that needed a home. We were soon blessed with our first child. A baby boy 4 years ago. I was in heaven and also in for the shock of my life. I was working full time running my business (no maternity leave for small business owners) and commuting from Vancouver to Toronto. I never missed a beat. I went into full time Mommyhood running and never stopped. No nanny, no day care. I wanted to raise my children and I did it but I never gave myself a break. With only an occasion breakdown I was ready for number 2.
The Adoption: Journey 4
Number 2 has arrived. Our second son took a little more time, a little more waiting, a lot more stress but he is home and I don’t want to miss even a second of my life with him. After even just a few days of trying to do it all – Mom of 2, wife, in house dog walker, cleaner, chef and daily blogger, tweeter / Facebook fan I am giving myself a break.
Top 5 Ways to Give Yourself a Break.
1) Don’t make you computer the first thing you do in the morning. Read the paper, have a coffee, mediate, or journal. Have breakfast with your kids and tell them you love them. Take the time to be grateful for the day ahead.
2) Exercise: Give your body a break from the desk and go move it. For 30 minutes you can walk, run, do stairs or hit a class. Give yourself a body break.
3) Take quality time with your kids. Running your kids to school, programs, sports or play dates is not quality time. Stop and take the time to talk to them, play with them personally, cuddle with them and let them know how much you love them.
4) Let it go for just one day. Leave the laundry, let the grass grow, miss a garbage day, vacuum tomorrow, order take out for dinner. Don’t try to do the entire “to do” list in one day.
5) Celebrate what you do get done not what you don’t. Be proud of every accomplishment. Stop beating yourself up for all the never ending tasks that didn’t get done for the day.
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Dalai Lama
I am just days away to completing 365days of giving. I try not to miss a day for anything but I can’t do it all. 365give is my passion for my children but I can’t sacrifice time with them to blog, tweet and FB. I will get my final “gives” done when I can and I will give myself a break if I don’t post every day.
Giving yourself a break is so important. Stopping to smell the roses shouldn’t be just a saying. Life goes by so fast remember remember to let it be just once in a while.
Time Commitment: 5 – 30 minutes a day
On Maternity Leave! Jacqueline Way, Founder of 365give will be on a short sabbatical as she just adopted a baby boy a few days ago. (See Day 352) In her place Nicola Inwood (generous sister) will be posting the daily “give.” If you do not get an immediate response to emails, FB comment or Tweets please understand that Jacqueline does not have immediate access to her social media communication at the moment. Thank you for the understanding.
Day 356: Give 356 Guest Post by Nicola Inwood
One of the greatest gives can be words of hope and wisdom.
With the recent activities (her adoption of a baby boy) transpiring in the life of Jacqueline, a good friend and reader of 365give.ca passed on this wonderful motivational and inspirational poem that we would like to give to all our readers.
This give falls under about 20 categories, a random act of kindness, a note of thanks, a gift to a friend to name a few. After receiving this give this week, I decided to place it as a give to all parents, children and people in the world as a wonderful give of the day. Whether you are parent, or just a person , this wonderful poem can keep on giving day in and day out.
If I Had my Child To Raise Over Again
IF I had my child to raise all over again,
I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I’d finger paint more, and point the finger less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.
I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars,
I’d do more hugging and less tugging.
I’d see the oak tree in the acorn more often,
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I’d model less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.
Pass this poem forward as your give for the day to someone you appreciate, are thankful for or could use a hand up. Thank you to Naz for sending in such a wonderful give to Jacqueline during this exciting and wonderful time.
I think we have all heard the saying ‘Charity begins at home‘ and this week this could not be more true! My sister has started this movement, 365give.ca where she writes everyday, gives everyday to people she knows, people she does not know, the planet, international organizations and tons of other causes and projects. She has been giving for more years than anyone would know and I am thrilled that she has formalized her passion and energy into a public educational program.
But sometimes the giver needs a give. And sometimes your sister needs a give to get her over a large hurdle.
So the give today is to my sister, Jacqueline Way, and this give will continue for the ext few days as she gets settled into Mommyhood once again. See Day 353 on her newest family member and miracle.
Day 354: Give 354: The Giver gets a Give: guest post by Nicola Inwood
If you have not heard, my sister Jacqueline will be adopted a new baby this week. This has been a long process of waiting, some disappointments as there were some adoptions that did not go through, some heart wrenching moments and some great patience on her part. The day has come when she gets her greatest give, a new baby, and as her sister, I get to give her the greatest give, making sure that she has support for another passion, 365give.
We live in different countries, and at this point will not overload her house with yet another person to get in the way, I will from afar give my time and dedication to her 365give.ca site as she settles into motherhood2 (squared). The duty of 365give.ca will be taken off if need be and I will submit the posts, or tweet or post on facebook while she settles.
This is my give to my sister for as long as she needs.
The Giver is not the best Receiver
In case you are not aware, Givers are not the best receivers. There are many givers out there, many of you who read this blog are great givers and one of the downfalls of a Giver is that they do not receive very well. It is my hope that Jacqueline will become as good of a Receiver as she is a Giver in this circumstance. Having a new baby pop into your life without the 9 months of preparation is a big change, and I only want the best for her, her first born Nicolas and husband David in this case. So work with me people and lets give Jacqueline full support as she flips into this new family mode.
Remember your family when thinking about your give of the day
It is easy to forget about our own family when we are thinking about the give of the day. But charity does start at home and I am happy that on 365give.ca we can ironically come full circle. So I am dedicating this day today, as a Family Give Day, where each of us looks to our immediate family, husband, sister, brother, child or roommate and give to them today.
We have Fathers Day, we have Mothers Day, we have Secretary’s Day and Bosses Day, but for some reason we don’t have a Sisters Day or Brothers Day. Mexico celebrates Kids Day, El dia de los Ninos, but sisters and brothers seem to be forgotten in these celebrations. So in your give today, phone your sister, help them with a chore, take their kids, or tell them that you appreciate them. Write them a note like Jacqueline did on Father’s Day.
Sisters Day Today
So if the 365give voice seems a bit different, know that it is Jacqueline’s sister providing a give of the day to help her settle in. It may be one give it may be a series of gives, but the Giver is getting a give for as long as she needs it….
Time commitment – Does not matter
Price – Priceless, the opportunity to give to your sister is really priceless